The hopeless, jaded and disenchanted

posted by Jeff | Tuesday, June 12, 2007, 11:37 PM | comments: 3

eHarmony connected me with a nice woman a few weeks ago, or so I thought. Then late one night, chatting with me, I tell her I need to go because it's late, like 1 a.m. She tells me I'm just like a man to leave her. Ouch.

Then today she tells me that people with visible tattoos are generally not worthy of employment. Not the thing to tell a guy who doesn't even own a suit. Appearance that is unconventional is not an indicator of a person's ability. I'm not willing to roll over and advocate that cultural norm, leaving it unchallenged.

So she says it's like racism, you'll never be able to make it go away. Can you believe that? It may not happen in my lifetime, but like so many other problems, it takes everyone to get on board and solve the problem. I mean, should we have just allowed slavery to continue and blocked women from voting?

I just can't imagine living with that kind of attitude toward life. Without hope, why bother even getting up in the morning? Even at my lowest points in life, I've always felt that I could make change in my life and in the world.

She is so off my buddy list.


Comments

Catherine

June 13, 2007, 3:46 AM #

Jeff. Although I agree that people should be free to express themselves, I think it is a bit of a stretch to equate it to women's lib or slavery. We cannot help being born women, and slaves could not help being born black. People with visible tattoos have made a conscious choice to alter their bodies, for whatever reason, and have to be prepared for how people will react. Change always happens slowly.

Jeff

June 13, 2007, 3:58 AM #

People aren't predisposed to basing their opinion of someone on appearance either. That's learned behaviour.

Carrie

June 13, 2007, 4:04 AM #

Run, Jeff. Run, and don't look back. ;)

The power of the buddy list... Mwwaaa haaa haaa...

Seriously, though, the concerns for me wouldn't be her views on tattooing. I mean it takes all kinds and she is entitled to her opinion.

The cues I am tuned into are the extreme statements with which she speaks her views. Man = Leave her. Tattoos = unworthy of employment. Racism (comparable to a stigma against tattooing somehow) = a constant in this world.

That's some challenged cognitive reasoning, in my opinion.


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