I saw on Digg a link to a NY Magazine piece on how porn makes men less interested in human sex. What a load of crap that is.
First off, the tone suggests that men are all driven by their penis and don't recognize the value of women. I can't think of a more stupid generalization you could ever make. I mean, the suggestion that porn sets an expectation that women can't ever meet is completely insane to me. I realize there is such a thing as porn addicts, but come on! What guy in a healthy sexual relationship would rather have the porn?
The other thing that bothers me is that it suggests men are solely responsible for the condition of a sexual relationship. That's not a very feminist angle. Let's face it, sexual attraction in the long term has almost nothing to do with physical appearance. It's all about the emotional intimacy and personality of a partner that really makes you want to jump all over them. "Hotness" still remains mostly mental. There's no other way to explain Michael Douglass and Catherine Zeta-Jones.
The attack on porn is not what bothered me about that piece, it's the suggestion that it's the cause of sexual dysfunction, and that it's all the fault of men. If the Internet has caused any problem in interpersonal relationships, it's not the porn, it's the impersonal way that it connects people, without context.
That's another of the conservative rantings that I don't pay attention to.
It is all about the emotional intimacy and personality of the partner. And it goes both ways. Women who are too stressed and tired are just as likely to not want sex as men. Men and women who aren't giving the emotional and physical support to their partners aren't going to get much in return.
In fact, I often wonder why women get so hung up on their men looking at porn or going to titty bars. If anything, it makes them more likely to want to come home and jump their wives.
I knew Gordon would have porn at his bachelor party the same night of my bachlorette party. So what I do? We suggested we crash the bachelor party so we could watch the porn too!
But then, I'm told I'm not normal.